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From self-proclaimed “People Pleaser” to “Boundary Pusher”

September 10, 2018 By Me2Admin

My name is Kim. I am (almost 31 years old.) I like hiking, hanging with my fam, my dog, laughing until I pee a little and I have a confession to make. I am a recovering people pleaser.

Pushing the boundaries is a conflicting thing for someone like myself, because I also dislike drama. No, but, for real. Let me explain.

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Dad’s diagnosis

September 8, 2018 By Me2Admin

… And how cancer affects the whole family.

I like to start my blogs by naming them, and then finding a photo to represent them. It’s the first two things I do, because for some reason it helps me delve into what I am going to write about. Sometimes I use stock photos, and sometimes I use personal ones. The photo I have started this blog with today, is a personal one.

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Can I bring you anything?

August 27, 2018 By Me2Admin

If you have had a baby, then the phrase “Can I bring you anything?” is probably very familiar to you. What’s also familiar is the polite response I just know came out of your mouth… “No no, I am good, thank you!”

WRONG.

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Becoming a family of four…

August 15, 2018 By Me2Admin

Why having two children really did feel like 20.

You’re 34 weeks pregnant… your feet are sore, hips are aching, and you can’t wait for this baby to make its arrival. Yet, every other person you meet, feels the need to tell you, “two is like 20!” You roll your eyes.

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And then, there were three.

July 30, 2018 By Me2Admin

Our first night home with Viola and how I came face to face with the reality of parenthood.

As I hobbled my way out of the maternity ward, barely able to stand upright after my caesarean, I could hardly believe they were letting us leave with this little living person. Didn’t they like, send you home with a nurse or a manual? Something? Anything? [Read more…]

The Third Decade Fundamentals of Friendship

July 15, 2018 By Me2Admin

Surrounding yourself with true and authentic friendship.

There was something about turning 30 that helped me reconnect with my inner child — as far as who I decided to be friends with anyways. Or, another term that gave me a little giggle the first time I heard it from a friend, was that I found my “f*** off fairy”, which usually reveals itself at this end of an era. Whether it’s this inner child mentality or that sassy little fairy, hear me out. [Read more…]

Feeding Your Baby

July 5, 2018 By Me2Admin

Dealing with the conflicting feelings when your baby weans.

Ah, breastfeeding… The ultimate conflict of emotions. If you are currently nursing your baby, and you have spent time with a mom that has a toddler, then I am sure she’s said something like, “Aw, I miss nursing!” But. Does she really? [Read more…]

Fitness After Pregnancy

July 5, 2018 By Me2Admin

Realistic expectations for getting back to it after having a baby.

If I had a penny for every friend or client of mine who has told me, “I can’t wait to get my pre-baby body back,” I would be a rich woman. I might even go as far as saying that everyone that I have known who has had a baby, has said this at some point. I’m sure they are looking for reassurance from me, but then there I go just crushing all of their dreams when I reply with, “That body is never coming back!” [Read more…]

So, You’re a Mother…

July 5, 2018 By Me2Admin

The Not-So-Gentle Transition into Motherhood.

A baby is born, and with that, a Mother is born alongside it. You may have felt like a Mama as soon as you saw that plus sign on the pregnancy test, but nothing can prepare you for the overwhelming reality of meeting that little person in the flesh. What an amazing, beautiful thing! The love you feel for your newborn is something you have never experienced. This is better than you could have ever imagined.

Or, is it? [Read more…]

Why Hire a Doula?

July 5, 2018 By Me2Admin

Who are we and what sets us apart from other support networks?

When I say I am a postpartum Doula, the most common question I get asked is, “What is that?”The second question is, “What do you do?” Or, “How are you different than say, a babysitter or housekeeper?”

So, what is a Doula, and what makes us different? [Read more…]

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When I was a child, I had a serious case of OCD di When I was a child, I had a serious case of OCD disorder. I’m talking... it would take me 45min to wash my face because I had to count to specific numbers. It consumed my life for a long time. 
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What I did next to remedy the condition is what I’ve learned now is a replacement behaviour. Replacing the undesired behaviour with something more productive — interrupting the action. And so, I started to sing.
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Yep, I’m talking full on belt it out while splashing water on my face so that I couldn’t count. With time and perseverance, it helped me take back control and I’ve never counted since.
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I was 10 years old and somehow had the intuition that the books I’m reading in my 30’s talk about. And okay, trust me when I say that I know a serious condition is wildly different than tackling a ‘bad habit’ but hear me out. 
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I believe that this theory is something that can be applied to less complex undesired habits as well. Recognizing these habits are important, of course! But dwelling on how you want to stop has the tendency to make you fixate on it even more. Try replacing it with a ‘good’ habit — something that will add value to your life instead of take it away.
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What’s one of your ‘bad habits’ you would like to say ✌🏻 out to but don’t know what to replace it with?
I remember when I was…. Three years postpartum I remember when I was….

Three years postpartum after my second pregnancy – I was getting dressed and felt heavy and fatigued, feeling so incredibly guilty that I hadn’t figured out a way to feel healthier/better about myself yet.

This is what I changed 👇🏻

I started showing up for 30min a day, even if the kids were going crazy or the house was a mess. I. Just. Pressed. Play.

This is what helped me most 👇🏻

Scheduling this in every day, no exceptions. Even if I had to press pause, or wipe a toddlers bum, I committed to starting and finishing.

This is how I feel now 👇🏻

Not to be dramatic but, I feel like an entirely new person. I know, how can a little bit of exercise change you? But you see, it’s about so much more!!! The movement is just the vessel for change.

I’d love for you to do this with me 👇🏻

Trying to move your body consistently alongside a community of powerhouse women. Like really show up for yourself for a few months and see how your life can change. 🙌🏻
Growing up, I was always referred to as being ‘b Growing up, I was always referred to as being ‘bossy’. Okay, in the spirit of self awareness I’m gonna go ahead & accept that this was probably true. 
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Definition: “fond of giving orders, scared of nobody, & full of vinegar.” Okay, kinda still true. 😆
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But here’s the thing. So many of the personality traits that were attributed as being negative can become your strongest traits as an adult. You know, once you grow up a bit & figure out how to hone in.
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When I was young, before I tried wrestling I did Ukrainian dance for a year. I know, what on earth! But even though it wasn’t my thing, I worked my 🍑 off & when the time came to step on stage at the recital, I was ready. I should say; I was the only one ready! None of the other dancers could remember the arrangement & I spent the entire 3 minutes directing them on where to tap their toes & when to exit stage right. I stomped off to my parents, mortified! But much to my surprise I was being chuckled at from the adults for the display of ‘bossiness’ I had put on (which I totally get now. If I witnessed that, I’d prob laugh my butt off too). But, because I worked hard for a year & applied myself, I was discouraged & I attempted to LEAD the entire group the best way a 6yr old could. 
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# 2. I was told I was ‘cheap.’ This one I’m going to agree with when referring to my adolescence but completely disagree when referring to me as a grown woman. I didn’t grow up rolling around in piles of money — we did our best & my parents worked hard. I was taught to work for what you want & had a paper route at age 10 so I could save up to buy myself a pair of flare jeans. So yea, I had a hard time offering up pieces of gum to a handful of friends that would cost me an hour of flyer deliveries to replace. Of course, I grew out of this one and am proud to say I consider myself incredibly generous with both those I love & those in need — giving beyond my needs at times because I feel in my heart it’s the right thing to do.
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My point (I know it’s taking a while to get to it) is that there are some personality traits we carry with us & refine, & others we evolve from.
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What’s a trait once attributed as negative you have refined? 👇🏻
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